More Adventures in Cloth Diapering

My completed diaper stash so far. 2 pocket diapers with fleece covers built in, 2 fleece covers, 3 newborn size Very Baby covers, 2 small size very baby covers, 1 medium Very Baby and one Large.

The Very Baby Wrap Cover. With Fold Over Elastic. One in Each size.

I wanted to sew diapers. Not wait for Fold Over Elastic to come in the mail. SO this is what I ended up with.

Pocket Diapers with Fleece Covers (Rita's Rump Pocket Pattern, its free online).

Adventures in making Diaper Covers

Because we are nuts we tried practice diapering a stuffed frog.

My first fleece diaper cover.

It's my Belly

9 years ago if you had asked us as college freshman where we would be today, the 3 of us would not have answered what we are doing right now. That is for sure (although my life comes the closest).

There we go. That is the Belly picture.

Buying things for Happiness

"But if a new care makes for a very happy wife, maybe the husband wouldn't be so grouchy"

I was told this on the WIR after I commented about how we know exactly what new to us vehicle we want that would be better for a new baby, we can't afford it right now. There were some other quotes in there going back and forth, but bottom lined remained the same. More money meant the ability to buy something to make your spouse happy. It wasn't a need. We have 2 working vehicles right now.

I think this a fundamental flaw in the thinking of a lot of people. You should never place your happiness in the ability or the position of an object. That new car won't last forever. If you had to buy something to make your spouse happy, how happy are you?

I'm not all zen or a minimalist, but I am trying not to put my worth and happiness in material possesions. Treasures on earth don't last. If you set yourself up to say that you will be happy once you have that new car, you will only be happy until you want the next new thing. Maybe I am just telling myself this to deal with what I can't have. But there are a lot of things in life I can't have. That is fine. I know I have the ability to be happy without them.

My other complaint is that I want to raise my children right. I want them to understand that hard work is worth it. That you can't always get what you want. What kind of example am I setting for them even before they are born if I don't follow that? I want to be the best mother I can be and I do believe part of that is not getting a new to us car right now. Sure it may not be trendy to follow this line of thinking, but this baby's daddy is going to get to stay home with her (or him, but I think it is a girl) and that is worth a lot more than being trending and having a new car.

Quick Update

I have not posted in a long time. Pregnant me has been kicking my butt. But I'm still here. Still working. Bill is staying home. He finally appears to have some projects. One under contract which he should be doing on Friday (we hope) and then 3 more pending. The money will be nice. THat is for sure.

Well, it is back to work I go.

How is it possibly the best thing for you child?

There is a regular poster on WIR whom I like. She is very smart, very motivated and has overcome a lot in her life. However, she is currently stuck in a position which she hates. That position is full time stay at home mom with minimal opportunities to work evenings. There are other posters on there that every single time just praise her so much for making that sacrifice because it is the "best thing for the child". All I can say is give me a freaking break... like baby doesn't know that mom is miserable. It just does not compute to me. Yes, you make sacrifices for your child, but being resentful about being a stay at home parent doesn't seem like a sacrifice. It seems like freaking prison sentence for this woman. The baby is 21 months and her husband is under contract for his position for another year. They live in LA where childcare costs $1500-$2000 a month (unlike here where for that age, unpotty trained child you are talking $400-$500 a month, goes up to $600 for infants).

I just don't get it. If Bill is miserable with Baby Yo and our situation, we will work something else out. Our child may go to childcare, but do not get me wrong we will still be raising our baby. We value you our happiness. I think we have proved this by having Bill not go back to work full time. We are happier with him at home. Sure right now things are a bit tight, but not unmanageable. We are going to do what makes us happy. Who knows maybe we will both work part time (as long as I work 1000 hours a year, I still get vested for that year and Derek will let me keep my insurance through them). Bill will work for himself and I will work for Derek. I personally cannot imagine staying in a situation where we are miserable again. Bill was miserable at his last job, but he stayed and it was hard on us. I felt he was staying in a miserable situation for me and I didn't want him to do that for me. That is my take. Ask me in February what I think about staying home and all that and home much Bill is really helping me and I may have a different answer, but for now I think people need to look beyond "Oh it really is best for the child to be with a Stay at home parent"...really? Gag me with a spoon. Are we back in the 60s? We are in the 21st century. Work days are no longer just 8-5; you can work from home, you can work from Starbucks; you can work 4-10s; you can work part time. Why does everything have to fit in a little box? And why do people feel content to stuff you in that box?

Back to the poster on WIR, I think her problems actually stem from her DH. But I feel the woman that "made the sacrifice to be a stay at home parent" and back up her DH to the extreme do a disservice to woman and to the working world we live in today.

Sigh...That is what I get for asking advice

So, we got back from vacation and I just was not doing very good at work. Really I was doing very poorly. I was passing the time and not focusing. So, I talked with Derek some to try to get my head around what was going on and oh I don't know the fact that I didn't know the hours I was suppose to have in the job and getting a lecture over it when I was over and the fact that I didn't know deadlines and all that stuff really bogged me down.

So, I posted on WIR and I painted myself in the worst possible light on purpose. I didn't want to go back and forth about what was right and wrong. I just wanted some advise to communicate better with my boss. I posted this thread on Tuesday evening. It is still going and the latest post is I don't know how your boss has done anything wrong. UGH!!! I don't want to complain about what is right or wrong because he is the boss. I have screwed up. Probably not as badly as you all think I have, and my boss is not a freaking saint!

Prior to leaving for vacation all I knew was I had to get Pt. 7 done. 8 days before I left, I finally said hey btw what else do I need to get done and he rattles off 5 other projects!!! So Pt. 7 does not get done. Not really even close. The scope is about twice what everyone thought it would be. D says no worries TRD and I will finish it while you are gone. Of course when I come back all D has done is call up the client's PM and the architect to get them to go our way on a few things and they don't go for it. Other than that it does not get touched. I should have put money down on it and I would have won.

So, I get home and I am out of it. Seriously out of it. The pregnancy is driving me nuts and I can't tell anyone and it is M.H. last day and ught. Ok, so for 4 days, I sucked. But I still got stuff done.

You know it doesn't matter. I know what I have to do or not do. I need to stay off WIR for a long while.